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Tonye B-O's avatar

Dear OluTimehin, I am glad to hear about the self-discovery and self-care you have begun to appreciate. For what it is worth, I congratulate you for arriving at this stage in just three decades. This epiphany tends to unfold for many around two to three scores. So, revel in your successful hacking of the system. I may not pride myself with the exact attributes as you, but as an African woman in a white privileged and capitalist world, my battle intersects with yours in more ways than we acknowledge. Therefore, whether I fall short of one or more of your attributes, nothing but a concerted effort against the intersectionality that impact us, will mean that we truly live. Therefore, we must continue as troubadours, but we traverse on our own terms, together. All the best.

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Frodo's avatar

Hello OluTimehin! I'm so very glad to see your first article, having enjoyed being enlightened and challenged by you via TC. Now, as then, your perspective is so refreshing. and yet, you have distilled what so much of my own life has been about: survival first, and now the experience of love, joy, wholeness. Don't feel badly about only discovering "life" in your third decade; I am in my fifth and am only now discovering it! It reminds me of a quote from David Bowie: "Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been." Here's to sharing the journey of becoming and "just living."

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